How to Have More Power in Your Life

Power sometimes has a negative connotation as some people believe it's about manipulating others into doing certain things. Yes, power can help you influence others, but not because you're forcing them to follow your point of view. Rather because they want to emulate you as you radiate inner strength and confidence. They want what you've got, but you don't push it onto them.  What is power? It is a positive energy, it is excitement and enthusiasm. The power of persuasion comes from being yourself, as you know who you are and what you want. In my book "The Magic of Willpower", I point out that the first step towards change is to know yourself, to know what's important to you and live your life according to your own values and principles. You are true to your own self and people can sense that you're real and genuine.

True power is the result of taking responsibility for your own life. You stop blaming others and blaming circumstances for whatever you're going through. You make a decision to stop moaning and groaning and complaining. Instead of finding things to criticise, you look for things to be grateful for. You make a decision to take your happiness into your own hands, regardless of what other people are saying or doing. Basically, you stop reacting to everything around you. You might not be the master of your destiny, as a lot of things are our of your control. But you can become the master of your own thoughts, emotions and behaviour, as you're taking your power back into your hands. Willpower is the power of wanting. If you want to change your life, then you have the power to do it. And it is magic because it transforms. It is like spring when everything blossoms. You are ready to give birth to your own new self...

Begin by trusting yourself instead of doubting yourself. Fear stems from the belief that you won't be able to handle certain situations, but if you say to yourself that you can cope with anything, you will be able to do it and you won't be anxious about it any more. You will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. God (or the Universe) never throws anything at you that you can't deal with. But if you have weaknesses (and everyone does), there will be experiences in your life that will help you strengthen these.  In the end, it's to your ultimate benefit that you endure what you have to endure. Something good will come out of it eventually, it's just that you can't see it right now when you're in the middle of it. Don't be a victim of your circumstances, but use them for your growth. Don't blame yourself for making mistakes, but use failure as a stepping stone, a learning opportunity. Look into the future with confidence, as it is not the past that propels you forward, but the hope of good things to come.

With much love,

Bella

Photo by Bella Tindale