How you look at things defines you as a pessimist or an optimist. The pessimist doesn't believe in happy endings; he or she believes that they are doomed to be miserable, and that nothing good will ever happen to them. Some pessimists become depressed and turn to substance abuse to blot out painful feelings. They usually don't experience much success and tend to blame others for their problems. The optimist is the opposite: he or she believes that things will work out eventually, and that it is possible to be happy, no matter how grim things are looking at the moment. The optimist takes responsibility for his or her life and doesn't waste time looking for scapegoats.
So why is it better to be an optimist? Aren't you kidding yourself when you put on those rosy glasses? It has been proven that optimists live longer, have less stress and suffer less diseases than pessimists. Optimists have stronger immune systems. They are also more successful than pessimists in every area of their lives, whether it be love, finances or simply getting a parking spot in a crowded lot.
Being an optimist is about being adventurous, and approaching every situation without fear and with a positive attitude. It is about trusting yourself and your ability to master any situation one step at a time, no matter how challenging it is. I will show you how to do this in my book, "The Magic of Willpower". Willpower is a direct consequence of the way you look at things - all of a sudden, what seemed impossible becomes a reality, a part of you. You never suspected that you had this potential hidden inside of you! Congratulate yourself for your achievements so far, no matter how big or small they may be, and no matter how great or insignificant they may be in other people's eyes.
Surround yourself with positive, optimistic people and shut out negative influences. An optimist might hear a disparaging remark, but won't take it to heart. He or she believes that human beings are inherently good and trustworthy. Don't be scared of making mistakes, they're part of your learning journey. There is no failure. Everything that happens to you is an opportunity to move forward and to learn new skills, such as patience, endurance and self-discipline.
Pain is only temporary, while optimism is an eternal gift. Once you've adopted this attitude, your life will inevitably improve, because of the way you perceive people, situations and events. Being an optimist is a way of life, and it's probably the best and most rewarding of all.
Have a nice day with lots of positive thoughts!
Bella
Painting: "Landscape by Moonlight" by Jan Sluyters, 1911
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