How Can I Find Love?

"Those that go searching for love, only manifest their own lovelessness. And the loveless never find love, only the loving find love. And they never have to seek for it." - D. H. Lawrence

"Love can only be found through the act of loving." - Paulo Coelho

"You don't have to go looking for love when it's where you come from." - Werner Erhard

You are not meant to lead a lonely life, and it is normal to long for a lover, a special person who will share everything with you, sorrow and joy, pain and pleasure, struggle and success...You are meant to learn and to grow within this relationship, and move closer to the Divine that created you and that dwells within you.

You probably have been told that to find love, you need to love yourself first. This is a bit a a platitude that you don't want to hear right now. It's easy to say, but not so easy to do. For some people, it's a very tall order, as they may suffered mistreatment or abuse (especially psychological abuse) and loving the self is a lifelong task. 

Consider the problem for another angle. Instead of thinking about how to obtain it, concentrate on your desire to give love.  Instead of wondering what is in it for you, whenever you consider a relationship, why not ask yourself instead, "How can I improve this person's life - contribute to his or her wellbeing?" This way, you don't need to worry whether you love yourself or whether you deserve love in the first place. 

Love is everywhere and you will soon come across it if you keep an open mind and mix with a lot of different people. Tell your friends and acquaintances about your intention of finding love. You will be surprised how happy they will be to assist you. Get out of your comfort zone and dare to do things that you wouldn't normally do - feel the fear and do it anyway!

The best way to find love and to practice being in a relationship is to develop this kind of intimacy with your Higher Power. The relationship you have with the Divine is a blueprint for any relationship you will have in your life. Allow God to create within you the qualities that will make you a loving partner for someone else.  Ask yourself what you can give before wondering what you will receive in return. God is pure love and that's where you came from - pure loving energy and nothing else. It is your natural state of being, to enjoy and to share with a special individual in your life.

With my best wishes and may all your dreams come true...

Bella

Painting: "The Happy Lovers" Jean-Honore Fragonard