When You get Blamed for Everything

You have only one person's blame to carry, and that is your own. If you get blamed for someone else's problems, you don't have to accept that blame, you don't have to take it to heart. But you don't need to defend yourself either, because it would only lead to senseless arguments. Sometimes people blame you because they need to unload painful emotions onto you. They feel guilty about something, but instead of dealing with this painful feeling, they prefer to turn it into anger and throw accusations at you. How do you react to this kind of attack?  To retaliate with hurtful words is like throwing fuel into a fire. "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me"... Unless you allow them to do so.  If you could put yourself in someone else's shoes and feel this person's inner turmoil and remorse, you would think twice before lashing out with vengeful words.

When someone tells you off, it's normal to feel bad. It's not very encouraging to hear criticism. But to react to it in a negative way is even worse. If you know your value as a human being, you won't be affected by someone else's careless words. You won't allow this person to have power over you and your emotions. 

I won't allow anyone to upset me. I am a responsible adult and I can examine my own conscious. If I need to improve in any area I will be aware of it. Therefore, I don't need to accept blame for another person's irrational actions, no matter how convincing this person may sound. I can deal with my own defects in an honest and fearless way. But in the meantime, the balance has to be right. I can't take on the weight of what others have done. When I deal with what is mine, I can let go of another person's blame, as I realise it has nothing to do with me. I am free to live my life without anyone poisoning me...

Love yourself - you deserve it!

Bella

Painting: "While this Beast Drinks Poison, a Snake Sucks His Blood" by Maria Primachenko, 1982