" I am a wonderful and unique human being."
"I am a good person and I deserve good things to happen to me."
What effect do these words have on you? Do you feel a bit queasy? Do you feel your throat constricting, your eyes welling up with tears?
Give up the idea of self-improvement, and switch to self-acceptance. Accept yourself exactly as you are, even and especially if you're overweight, unfit, unmotivated or if you have an addiction. Accept yourself if you're going through a difficult time, with your boss, spouse, parents, children, or neighbours. Problematic relationships, health issues and financial struggles can really pull you down.
Be aware of your fears and let them go, one by one. Hard times will test you, but a positive attitude towards yourself will pave the way for positive outcomes, because you know you're worth it, and you know that everything will be all right in the end.
Mirror work is like a magic wand when developing a positive self-image. After all, this is what you see in the mirror: the image of your own self. Mirror work is very simple and doesn't require much time. In the morning, say "I love you" to yourself, while looking deep into your own eyes. Don't be phoney about it. Really mean it, from the bottom of your heart. Repeat the same thing at night, before going to bed.
Morning and night is the minimum, but you can do it as many times as you need during the day. Every time you feel discouraged or depressed, go to the mirror, and tell yourself how much you love yourself. You will soon notice an enormous difference in your life.
Never belittle or put yourself down. Use affirmation when you think or talk about yourself. Affirmation are positive statements you repeat over and over to condition your subconscious - as a result you will begin to think differently:
- I love and accept myself unconditionally.
- I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
- I radiate love and respect and in return, I get love and respect.
- I am a well-loved and respected person.
- I accept others as they are and they accept me as I am.
- It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react, and what I believe.
- I deserve all that is good. I release any need for misery or suffering.
- I release the need to be a victim. I am a powerful person and have full control over my life.
- I release the need to prove myself to others, as I am who I am, and I love it that way.
- I am solution minded. Any problem that shows up in my life is solvable.
- I am never alone. God supports me and is with me, every step of the way.
- My mind is filled with positive, loving and healthy thoughts that are reflected in my life experience.
- My mind is full of gratitude for my precious, wonderful life.
- I release the past and live only in the present. I enjoy my life to the fullest.
Self-esteem is how you see yourself, and therefore look after yourself. If your self-esteem is healthy, you will take good care of yourself. You will eat a balanced diet and exercise regularly. You will get sufficient sleep and drink your eight glasses of water a day. You will attract relationships that are good for you. You will avoid stress, cultivate peace of mind and practice non-violent communication. You will strive for understanding, instead of conflict.
Forgive yourself for all your past mistakes, without exceptions. Guilt is a useless emotion. Make a commitment to treat yourself well, starting from this very moment. Set small, achievable goals for yourself. Look after your body: it's the only one you have. Take time to do something nice for yourself.
Relax in the knowledge that all is well and continues to be well. Problems come and go, but the love you have for yourself will always be there.
With all my love,
Bella
Painting: "Garrowby Hill" by David Hockney
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